Squirting 101

Here’s how the chapter is structured:

1. Your anatomy – The important parts of your body when making yourself squirt.

2. The process & techniques to squirt – With detailed instructional diagrams!

3. FAQ on common squirting questions that are often asked as well as debunking some annoying myths about squirting.

1. Important Anatomy

Before learning the techniques to use for squirting, it’s important that you understand your own anatomy and ‘where everything is down there.’

In the cross section of the vagina at the top of the page, you can see where the important anatomical features are.

The G Spot

While the diagram is quite detailed, it’s important to note the location of G Spot. Full disclosure: While some medical professionals still dispute its existence, we believe it exists, but that its sensitivity varies from person to person and from situation to situation.

The G Spot is the most important area to focus on when learning how to squirt. It’s located on the upper wall of your vagina, between 1 and 3 inches from the entrance.

Please understand that your G Spot is hard to find when you are not aroused. However, when you are aroused it becomes engorged. When it gets bigger, it feels soft, spongy and slightly ribbed to touch. Its texture feels similar to the roof of your mouth, yet much softer.

Skene’s Gland

When you stimulate the G Spot, you are also going to be stimulating a gland just above it called the Skene’s gland (sometimes called the Female prostate). The Skene’s gland is located around the walls of the urethra and drains into the urethra. The Skene’s gland is where you squirt or ejaculate from.

You can’t stimulate the Skene’s gland directly, as it’s not actually on the inside wall of your vagina. It’s just above your G Spot. So you can only stimulate it indirectly when you stimulate your G Spot.

When a scientific study was performed on multiple women by Emanuele Jannini of L’Aquila University in Italy in 2002, it found that the size and anatomy of the Skene’s gland varies dramatically for each woman examined. He also discovered a few edge cases where they couldn’t even find a Skene’s gland in some women.

It’s been postulated that the varying size and even lack of a Skene’s gland altogether is the reason why some women can easily squirt while others have extreme difficulty with female ejaculation.

The Clitoris

When learning how to squirt, the clitoris is not as important as the G Spot. This is because the vast majority of people squirt as a result of G Spot stimulation, although it’s not impossible.

So for most people, the rest of your anatomy is going to be secondary to your G Spot when learning how to make yourself gush & squirt. The final thing to say about the clitoris is that I have used the color purple to make it stand out in the illustration above, in real life it doesn’t have a distinct color.

2. The Process & Squirting Techniques

One of the key parts to learning how to make yourself squirt is understanding that you need to build up to it. Making yourself squirt doesn’t just happen by mechanically following my techniques. You need to slowly put yourself in the right mood first where you are very aroused and extremely comfortable.

Getting Comfortable & Relaxed

Getting yourself both comfortable and relaxed is the priority. Everybody has different routines to relax and loosen up. For you it could be lying in bed in a pair of sweatpants while for someone else it could be while taking a shower and washing yourself. You may find that you need to do a little bit of experimentation to find out what works best for you.

Getting Aroused

Next, you need to start getting yourself aroused. Some suggestions for getting yourself aroused:

·        Reading erotica

·        Watching porn

·        Fantasizing about something or someone

·        Massaging yourself

·        Using a vibrator or dildo

While getting yourself aroused, don’t worry too much about your G Spot. Focus on the other areas of your body. Ideally, you should try to spend about 20-30 minutes getting yourself worked up to the point where you are eagerly awaiting an orgasm.

As you get yourself aroused, it will start to make your Skene’s gland swell and get bigger, which in turn will make your G Spot get bigger and more sensitive. Sometimes, this swelling of the Skene’s gland can make it feel like you need to pee. This is simply because the Skene’s gland is located right beside the bladder and will start to put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s swells.

At this point, your G Spot should also be sufficiently enlarged and sensitive enough to find easily with your fingers. Remember, it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina as indicated in the diagram below:

All of this ‘foreplay’ is important to build yourself up to squirting. Without it, your Skene’s gland will not have swelled and your G Spot won’t be as sensitive. In other words, if you don’t get yourself worked up beforehand, it’s going to a lot harder to actually squirt.

Quick Note: Everybody responds differently to these techniques below. So make sure to do some experimentation to find what works best for you.

The Hook

The hook is the best technique using only your hands. To perform it, lie down on your back and slide your hand down your stomach, with your palm facing your belly. When you reach your vagina, insert your middle and ring finger, leaving your index and pinky finger outside and pointing down towards the bed like in the diagram below.

Now, you need to find your G Spot with the tip of your fingers and start to gently massage it while your hand is in the Hook position. There are a number of different ways to massage and stimulate your G Spot using the Hook.

 

 

Push The Button
You can press your G Spot repeatedly with your finger like you would press a button. Make sure to experiment with how much pressure you apply. Lightly pressing can be enough for some women, while others need intense pressure. This pressing can be pleasurable, but the next techniques are much more likely to make you have a squirting orgasm.
Come Hither
Making a ‘come hither’ or ‘beckoning’ motion with your middle and ring fingers will allow the tips of your fingers to run over and back your G Spot, providing yourself with a lot more stimulation. Again, make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure applied and with the exact location of where you apply the pressure. You may notice this technique and Push The Button can tire your fingers and wrist out quite quickly.
The Arm Shaker
The Arm Shaker is like a combination of Push The Button & Come Hither…on steroids. Instead of using your fingers and hand to provide stimulation, you are going to use your entire arm. First, you need to keep your fingers firmly in place, with the tips pressed against your G Spot. Then you need to start using your entire arm to provide pressure, a lot more pressure than previously. Do this by keeping your arm quite stiff while trying to raise and lower it rapidly. As your fingers are pressed against your G Spot, you will be able to provide massive amounts of pressure to it. This is almost guaranteed to make you squirt.

Sex Toys

Optionally you can use a sex toy like dildos or penis shaped vibrators. There are even specialized G Spot vibrators you can use to stimulate your G Spot.

There is no ‘one true method’ to make yourself squirt. Everyone is different, so make sure to experiment with lots of different techniques to see what works best for you.

Squirting During Sex

As well as squirting while masturbating alone, you may want to squirt with your partner. The key is using the correct angle and depth of penetration. Your man only needs to penetrate about 2-3 inches to make you ejaculate. The illustration below shows the depth and angle that he should be penetrating you to stimulate your G Spot

But if you find that this angle is not providing enough pressure to your G Spot, then get your man to make the angle slightly more drastic like in the illustration below:

4 Sex Positions To Help You Squirt

The following four positions are the ones you should try with your man to help make yourself squirt during sex:

G Spot Position
As the name suggests, the G Spot position is all about your man stimulating your G Spot with each thrust.
Launch Pad Position
This position is great as it gives you a lot of control. You can use your feet on your man’s chest to control how deep he penetrates you. If you are having trouble getting enough G Spot stimulation, it’s usually because your man is leaning too far forward. Getting him to lean backwards and only use shallow strokes should do the trick.
Down Stroke Position
Think of the Down Stroke position as a more extreme version of the G Spot position. It’s also more dangerous, so don’t do it if you aren’t physically very fit.
Jockey Position
The Jockey position is easier because you’ll be lying on your stomach as demonstrated on the right. While it’s easy to perform, it takes a specific movement from your man to provide pressure to your G Spot. Instead of thrusting in and out, he just needs to grind on you. As he moves his hips forward, it will cause the tip of his penis to rub off your G Spot.

 

Pressure & Release

As your G Spot is stimulated during masturbating or sex, you will start to feel a buildup in pressure. Many women report that this feels like they need to pee. This feeling is completely natural for two reasons:

1. Your Skene’s gland is close to your bladder and as it expands it puts pressure on the bladder, increasing the feeling of needing to pee.

2. As your Skene’s gland enlarges, you will naturally feel like releasing the pressure. Like I said previously, the Skene’s gland is emptied through the urethra so it will feel a bit like peeing as you squirt. So there is simply no way to avoid this ‘peeing’ feeling.

So try not to worry about this feeling and understand that some women feel it more than others. All you need to do is keep doing what you are doing and allow that pleasurable feeling to keep building until you do eventually ejaculate. This point is often the final hurdle that some women fail to cross when it comes to squirting.

As the pressure builds and you can feel yourself about to squirt, it’s important to be able to let go and be ok with what’s about to happen. For some, this involves trying to completely relax themselves, while others find that to let go, they need to ‘push’ the orgasm out. Again, experiment and see what works to give you maximum pleasure.

3. FAQ

If you are having trouble squirting, then most likely you’ll find an answer to your problem here:

Question: I feel like peeing when I try to make myself squirt. Why?

Answer: This is because you are applying pressure to an area right beside your bladder, which in turn puts pressure on your bladder. Additionally, you will be squirting from your urethra which is the same place you pee from, hence the very similar feeling.

Just ignore this natural feeling and keep going. If you are still worried, then try to make yourself squirt in the shower, and you will see that the smell and texture of the fluid you ejaculate is not the same as pee. Remember that the liquid that comes out is from the Skene’s gland, not the bladder.

 

Question: No matter what I try, I can’t squirt. What should I do?

Answer: Firstly, don’t worry too much about it, stressing yourself about the outcome will only make it harder to ejaculate. For many women, it takes time to learn about their bodies, what feels right and what brings them closer to squirting. So take the time to masturbate and discover the kinks and fantasies that turn you on. You need to build up to it by slowly turning yourself on for up to 30 minutes before paying attention to your G Spot. In time, you will get closer and closer to squirting.

According to the research of Emanuele Jannini, some women unfortunately don’t have a Skene’s gland, making it next to impossible to squirt.

 

Question: The pressure keeps building, but I never hit the peak & squirt. Help!?

Answer: Sounds like you are close and it will take just a little bit more to push you over the edge into gushing bliss. The technique to take you over the edge varies from person to person.

For some, they need to let go, be at peace with how they feel and just relax. But for others they need to push out. This sounds a little vague but pushing out refers to the feeling of literally pushing out with your Kegel muscles. Others need intense clitoral stimulation at the same time as G Spot stimulation to squirt. My advice is to experiment with all 3 of these things to see what works for you.

 

Question: Fluid flowed/gushed, but I didn’t squirt a stream of liquid. Why not?

Answer: The level at which women squirt/ejaculate/gush is highly variable. Some women can shoot a steady stream into the air while for most, fluid simply runs out of their vagina. It’s the same for guys when they ejaculate. For many, it just oozes out, while for others it can fly across the room!

 

Question: My man wants me to squirt for him, but I can’t. What should I do?

Answer: Your boyfriend needs to relax and understand that learning to squirt takes time and patience. He also needs to realize that if you’ve never squirted on your own, then it’s even less likely that your first time is going to be with him. So take some ‘alone’ time to learn to squirt by yourself. Then once you can easily do it alone, you are going to find it easier to do with your man. You will find that the more pressure your man puts on you to squirt, the less likely it is to happen, so get him to take a chill pill and relax.

Lastly, remember that some girls simply can’t squirt, and that’s perfectly normal.

 

Question: I squirted, but I didn’t have an orgasm, what happened?

Answer: This sounds normal. Squirting is not always linked to having an orgasm. Sometimes you can squirt/gush and not orgasm while you do it.

 

Question: I want my man to make me squirt. What should I do?

Answer: The short answer is to teach him and show him. Give him a demonstration and show him exactly what you do to make yourself orgasm.

 

Question: I’ve never had an orgasm, but I want to squirt, what should I do?

Answer: Slow down. Everything is going to be much easier if you learn to masturbate and give yourself an orgasm first, before moving on to squirting. 

 

Question: I’m a guy who wants to make my partner squirt. What can I do?

The last thing I’d like to say on squirting is that I have made a number of assertions & assumptions based on both scientific and anecdotal evidence. Despite huge numbers women reporting being able to squirt, the scientific community is still debating aspects of squirting such as the makeup of the fluid that is squirted as well as the existence of the G Spot!