How To Be Sexy
9 HOT TIPS
Learning
how to be sexy for yourself or your partner is easier than you think. There are
a lot of different things you can do to be sexier that range from easy and even
a little tame right up to being quite outrageous and out there. Lets start with
the easier things first…
What's That Your Wearing
By far the easiest thing to fix if you want to be more sexy is
how you dress. Now, there are a number of ways to go about this. Obviously if
you want, you can choose to dress like a pornstar, but you absolutely don’t
have to go there to get the desired effect.
There
are 2 general rules of thumb that you need to follow if you want to be sexier:
1. Wear
Clothes The Draw Attention To Your Best Assets – If you have a great pair of
legs or you are proud of your breasts and think they deserve more attention or
you have a figure to die for, then wear clothes that accent those assets. Don’t
cover them up and keep them from the world! The same goes for your shoes. If
you look great in heels, then why not wear them every chance you get?
2. More
Skin Is A Good Thing (Usually) – Showing off more skin to your man is usually a
good thing when you want to look and dress sexier. There is no need to go over
board, but definitely consider revealing a little more skin. Again like I said
earlier, there is no need to wear clothes so skimpy that you could be mistaken
for a pornstar, but definitely think about showing a little more skin if you
want to appear sexier.
2.Flashdance
Ok,
ok, I get it! This is a sex advice website, not a dance instruction website!
Still, there are just a few simple things that you need to know in order to
dance in a sexy way.
Slow
Right Down! – Yup…if you want your dancing to be sexier, then the easiest way
is to slow your movements right down when you hit the dancefloor. Even with the
same dance moves, this will make everything far, far sexier.
Reading
About Dancing Sexy Is Pointless, You Need A Demonstration – Reading about how
to dance sexy is kinda pointless, so here are 2 videos demonstrating what kinds
of moves you can use in the club to look sexier. They are a little cheesy, but
have great information…
This
first one is super cheesy, but thankfully breaks everything you need to do
right down.
The
second one isn’t as cheesy
3. GET YOUR HAIR DID
This next
tip on how to be sexy how can you use your hair to look your sexiest? It can
take quite a while and a lot of experimentation to get right, but it’s
definitely worth it.
Some
girls look very sexy with short hair (Rihanna anyone?) while others look better
with long hair. If you have medium length or long hair, should you wear it up
or down, in a ponytail or over one shoulder? Time to experiment and see what
makes you feel sexiest and gets you the best results. You (& your man) may
find a change in style, regardless of how it looks to be the sexiest thing of
all.
4. THE DIRTY WORDSMITH
One
really powerful way to be sexier is how you choose your words. Using just a
tiny amount of dirty talk on your man is the perfect way to be sexier and more
alluring around him.
But
just like with dressing sexier for your man, you don’t have to take your dirty
talk to pornstar levels for it to be effective.
You’ll
find that even just sneakily hinting at doing certain things with your man is
enough to arouse him.
5. YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
Just
like with your dance moves, your body language plays a big role in how sexy you
look…but I want to warn you about a few things…
If
you look around the internet, you’ll find all this crazy information on your
body language, his body language and what it’s all supposed to mean. The
frustrating thing for you is that the majority of this information is
utter…GARBAGE! It’s confusing, misleading and often not accurate at all.
You
might have heard advice like this…
“If
he folds his arms, he is not interested in you.”
…or
maybe he’s just cold…or maybe he’s more comfortable doing that…or maybe he hurt
his arm (there could be a thousand reasons that have nothing to do with how he
feels about you).
“If
you hold your drink up high around your stomach or chest, then you are showing
everybody that you are uncomfortable.”
…or
maybe it’s just easier to hold your glass that way!
If
you want to get your body language right so that you appear sexier, then the
most important thing is to just be comfortable in your own skin.
If
you are really trying hard to push your chest out and keep your back arched,
then it’s going to seem like you are trying too hard and will come off as
forced.
If
you overdo it with the ‘forced sexiness’ then you’ll do well at attracting
those super-shallow guys, but the really great guys will be able to easily see
through it.
So
my advice is to not worry too much about your body language and spend more time
getting comfortable. The only other thing to consider is slowing down your body
movement a bit, but this is not nearly as important as getting comfortable with
yourself.
6. HOW YOU TOUCH YOUR MAN
Now
that we have covered the things you can do on your own to be sexier, what about
what you can do to be sexier when interacting with your man?
How
you touch him AND how much you touch him plays a pretty important role in how
sexy YOU APPEAR. Think about it like this:
If
you never touch your man at all, then you’re going to find it near impossible
to seem sexy and sexual around him or even show him that you are
interested…but…if you are constantly touching your man in a way that is kind of
over the top and too much, then your man may find that you are coming on too
strong. So how to get it right?!?!? Here is a rough guide on how to touch your man
in in a way that’s sexy but not over-the-top.
When
there is a reason to touch your man, then feel free to do it.
If
he just said something really funny, then it’s a good time to touch him as your
are laughing.
Obviously
if you are trying to get his attention , you should touch or grab him.
If
you are making a point then it’s completely appropriate to touch him.
The
key is to only touch him for a few seconds, there’s really no need to linger.
7. DON’T BE A STARFISH
A
key problem that I have diagnosed with many couples is the curse of Starfish
Syndrome. It happens when one partner basically just acts like a starfish
during sex…they just lie there hardly moving. Let me tell you something that’s
both obvious and tragic…
Starfish
Syndrome Is NOT Sexy
Sometimes
men are guilty of starfish syndrome, sometimes women are, the key is both of
you completely avoiding it.
So
the next time you are getting intimate with your man, you need to ‘give as good
as you get’. Don’t just sit there passively, make sure to get involved and show
your man your passion for him. Here are some ways to get more involved in your
love life:
- Be the initiator! Don’t let him be the only initiator in your relationship.
- Make your way down to his crotch with your hands before he has a chance to do the same to you.
- Start kissing him before he kisses you.
- Try grabbing him by the hand and leading him to the bedroom to initiate sex.
- Surprise him with a blowjob.
- Give him a quick kiss on the cheek when he’s not expecting it.
You
don’t have to do anything really sexual if you don’t want to, the key is
INITIATING it.
8. HAVING A WIDE RANGE OF SEX SKILLS
Every
guy appreciates a blowjob…but if the only skill you have in your sex arsenal is
knowing how to give him a blowjob, then you are in trouble, he’s inevitably
going get bored of it. Wouldn’t it be better to only give your man a blowjob
once a week or so?…while using other awesome sex techniques on him sparingly
too.
That
way he will never get bored. In fact he’ll be eagerly awaiting to see what sexy
surprises you have in store for him. If you are serious about improving your
sex skillset, then you should check out the sex skills area or sign up to the
Bad Girls Bible newsletter.
9. WHAT’S YOUR POSITION ON THIS?
Learning
specific sex skills to try out with your man is certainly a great way to be
sexier in the bedroom, but an even easier way is to just learn some new sex
positions. You’ll be glad to know that I have an entire sex
positions section with detailed photographs that will teach you everything you
need to know about what sex positions you should be using with your man.
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