How To Use A Vibrator For Intense Orgasms

If you don’t yet know how to use a vibrator, then you are seriously missing out on a lot of orgasms and pleasure. Using a vibrator is the perfect addition to both masturbating and your regular sex life. In fact, it might give you an orgasm if you’ve never had one before, and some women are only able to cum while using one! This guide is going to teach you exactly how to use a vibrator along with what techniques work best.

Choosing The Right Vibrator For You

Before learning how to use a vibrator, you want to choose the one, and there are a couple of vital factors to take into consideration:

• Power – The most important factor when selecting a vibrator for yourself is making sure it’s powerful enough. If you currently struggle to orgasm either during sex or masturbation and require a lot of intense stimulation to get yourself over the edge, then mostly likely you’ll need a more powerful vibrator. This means that you’ll need to avoid the cheap options which often don’t deliver much stimulation and stick with mid to high-end vibrators that include the likes of Lelo, WeVibe, the Hitachi Magic Wand, Sybian and well made “rabbit” style vibrators.

• Modes & Settings – Another major issue to consider before splashing the cash on a brand new vibe is what modes or settings it has. With many vibrators, you can adjust the intensity of the vibration. This is awesome as it means you can customize it to get exactly the type of stimulation you want. On some vibrators, you can also set it to deliver cycles of intensity. This means that the vibrator will automatically change how intense the vibrations are so that you feel pulses or waves of vibration repeatedly building and receding instead of a constant level of intensity. Most women find this to be a lot more pleasurable than the same continuous power that less well-made vibrators give. In fact, one of the biggest problems with most low-end vibrators is that if the intensity is not right, there is no way to adjust it. So it can end up being too weak or too powerful, and there is nothing you can do to adjust it. 

• Shape – For many women, the shape of their vibrator is not very important when using it. This is especially true for those of you who are only interested in clitoral stimulation and using your vibrator on the outside of your vagina. If you want penetration also, then obviously the shape of your vibrator is important too. Thankfully, most stores stock a large variety of shapes and sizes, from vibrators that look like small capsules (bullets) to penis shaped vibrators to smoother forms with bumps and curves in all the right places, so you’ll always be able to find the right shape for your needs. 

• Noise – The last thing to touch on when choosing a vibrator is noise. If you share a house with others, you will naturally want to be discreet. A noisy, loud vibrator isn’t going to help you achieve this! My advice is to avoid the cheaper, less well-made vibrators is you want a quiet one.

Prepping For Maximum Pleasure 

Once you’ve got a good vibrator, there are a few things you can do before getting down to business to ensure you enjoy maximum orgasmic pleasure

The first and most important thing is understanding what turns you on and makes you horny. This could involve things like:

• Having a long, hot bath beforehand.
• Reading your favorite erotica.
• Setting the mood in your room with the right music, scents, and lighting
• Performing some foreplay on yourself.
• Watching porn if that’s your thing.
• Having a glass of wine.

Ultimately, you need to do what works for you. So if there is something not mentioned here, but it gets you horny-as-hell, then do that instead.

The other important strategy for achieving maximum pleasure is knowing your body intimately so that you understand the exact buttons you need to press to bring you over the edge into an ocean of orgasmic bliss.

How To Use A Vibrator – 9 Intense Techniques

The key with the techniques below is experimenting with them and figuring out which ones work best for you.

1. Vibrator Foreplay 

Start by softly dragging your vibrator over your most sensitive erogenous areas. These are places like your breasts and nipples and the inside of your thighs. For some people, they find that their neck, lips, stomach and even the inside of their elbows (really!) also respond well to the vibrations.

As you are starting to get aroused, start focusing more on your thighs and vagina, but don’t apply your vibrator to your vagina just yet. Keep teasing yourself by gently trailing your vibrator around it, running it over the outside of your labia and above your clitoris until your body is crying out for more direct contact.

2. Gentle Teasing 

Gentle Teasing is similar to the previous technique, except this time you will be focusing more directly on your vagina but only making very light contact.

Start by applying the tip of your vibrator to the bottom of your vagina and slowly dragging it upwards towards your clit. Once you reach the top of your vagina, above your clit, slowly drag it back down. While doing this technique, your body will be crying out for more pressure and intensity, but don’t give in just yet. Maintain a “feather-light” touch for as long as possible.

3. Clitoral Focus 

Now it’s time to use your vibrator on your clit! Move the tip of your vibrator over your clitoris and start applying direct pressure to it. There are bunch of things you can do here:

• You may prefer to push the tip of your vibrator into a particular side of your clit.
• You may prefer to rub it over and back on your clit.
• You may prefer to circle your clit slowly or very rapidly.
• You may prefer to keep softly teasing yourself by applying minimum pressure. 

The key is experimenting with different techniques and finding the part of your clit that feels most enjoyable and pleasurable with your vibrator.

4. Clitoral Hood 

Some women find that direct contact on their clitoris is too intense and can even be painful. If you fall into this category, then don’t worry, you’re not alone, and there is a simple solution…

You need to use the clitoral hood as a buffer. This is the little flap of skin that covers your clitoris. So instead using your vibrator on your clitoris, use it on your clitoral hood instead. This way the vibrations will be less intense but still enjoyable.

5. Coming In From Below 

This technique is universally popular as you will be able to stimulate the entire outside of your vagina with it. You need to take your vibrator and press the length of it against your vagina. The top of your vibrator should be pressed against your clit, while the length of the vibrator is pressed against your vagina/labia and the bottom of your vibrator should be at the lower part of your vagina.

If you squeezed your legs together in this position, you would easily be able to keep your vibrator in place.

6. Cum Inside 

While all the previous techniques involved the outside of your vagina, it’s now time to think about what’s on the inside. For this, you will need a vibrator that is somewhat penis shaped and can easily enter your vagina.

Using your natural lubrication or some lube that you purchased, coat your vibrator with it and slowly push it inside your vagina. Simply leaving your vibrator to sit inside your vagina can be very pleasurable, but you’ll find it much more enjoyable to apply pressure to the most sensitive spots in there, particularly your G Spot and Skene’s gland area along with your A Spot, which can cause orgasm.

Experiment with the pressure you apply, the intensity of the vibrations and different areas inside your vagina to discover what feels most intense.

7. Add Your Fingers To The Mix 

Just because you are using a vibrator doesn’t mean that you can’t also use your fingers. In fact, doing so only adds more pleasure to the mix. Use your fingers on one hand to stimulate your G Spot, while simultaneously using your vibrator in your other hand to pleasure your clitoris.

Of course, you can also switch your hands around here and use your fingers to rub your clit, while pressing your vibrator into your G Spot.

As I keep repeating like a parrot, the key is experimenting and seeing what you prefer. You may find that you prefer pressure on your A Spot or prefer to rub your labia instead of your clit.

Vibrators are sometimes referred to as “marital aids”, and seeing them as such is a good idea. Using a vibrator during sex can dramatically add to both your AND your man’s pleasure.

If you currently struggle to orgasm during sex, then using a vibrator can help a lot to reach orgasm during penetration. Using it on your clitoris in certain positions like Missionary or the Coital Alignment Technique can be very cumbersome and awkward while other positions like Doggy Style or Spooning make it very easy.

If you like, your man can also take over and use the vibrator on you during sex.

Another fun option is to use your vibrator on HIM. Again this is dependent on what position you are in. If you are in a position that makes it easy, you can use it on his balls, perineum (the area of rough skin between his testicles and anus) or even his ass.

IMPORTANT: Some insecure guys think that if you use a vibrator during sex, it’s because he is a terrible lover or that you need something more. This can be super frustrating, especially if you just want to try something new with him. If your man acts offended at your suggestion or seems distressed, then, unfortunately, you need to reassure him that you only want to try something new and that it’s NOT him.

9. During Blow Jobs & Hand Jobs 

As well as using your vibrator on your man during sex, you can also use it on him during a blow job or hand job. Here are a few ideas:

• Try gently running it along his shaft and the head of his penis and watch his reaction!
• While giving him either oral sex or a hand job, you can use it on his testicles, trailing it over them and caressing them with it or holding it against them with your hand.
• Your man’s perineum is also incredibly sensitive, so try pressing your vibrator on it. Although it’s sensitive, you can use a lot of pressure which makes it more enjoyable for him.
• If your man enjoys having his ass played with, then don’t be afraid to use it on his ass too. You can rub it around the outside, softly press it inside or even just fully penetrate him with it. Of course, you need to clean it afterwards before using it on yourself again.

Warning

While vibrators work to enhance most women’s sex lives, there is also a dark side to them that some women fall prey to.

Don’t worry; I’m not talking about addiction! It’s something a little more subtle.

When you start using your vibrator, you’ll notice how the strong vibrations make it easy to orgasm; it’s even been described as “inescapable”. Over time, if you consistently use your vibrator instead of other means to masturbate and orgasm, your body will begin to adjust to the strength of your vibrator. When you switch back to using only your hands, many women notice that they can’t possibly provide as much pleasure as your vibrator can, making it much harder to orgasm.

The same is true for regular sex. If your body has adjusted to the intense vibrations of your vibrator, then you may begin having difficulty climaxing as your man can’t provide nearly as much stimulation. This dependency on your vibrator can be frustrating and even doctors who recommend vibrators to couples are advised to prepare them for this possibility. Of course, the solution is simple, stop using your vibrator for a few months and your sensitivity will return.

The last thing to say on this guide to using your vibrator is that it was very in-depth and covered a lot of areas. Often when you’re about to use yours, you’re already horny, so you can skip all the foreplay and preparation that I discussed at the start of the guide and go straight to the techniques you enjoy most.