DIRTY TALK 101

 

 

Nobody likes having quiet or even silent sex. It’s a complete turn-off and a recipe for a very dull sex life. 

That’s why I am going to teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man with this Dirty Talking Guide so that you can build sexual tension, keep him deeply attracted to you and most importantly so that you have incredible sex. 

 

 

Why Learn To Talk Dirty In The First Place? 

The first step in learning how to talk dirty to your man is understanding why you should be doing it. Many women think using dirty talk phrases like the ones below is something that’s reserved for the bedroom only. It certainly does make sex more enjoyable, but it works in so many other areas of your relationship too. 

 

Build Sexual Tension – By far the most powerful benefit of talking dirty to your guy is that it increases the sexual tension between you and him. Sexual tension is the core building block of having a passionate, enjoyable relationship with a guy you’re deeply attracted to. 

Instead of always trying to rip each others clothes off, you’re both struggling to get aroused and get in the mood for sex. You may have even tried multiple “tricks” or “formulas” you learned online to get the spark back…but it didn’t work. 

 

Sexual tension is the key. 
 

It’s that magical feeling that keeps you thinking about each other, wanting to be physically close and gets you completely aroused when you’re in each others company. Talking dirty to your boyfriend or husband is the absolute best way to build sexual tension with him. 

Intense Sex – Using dirty talk can enhance and intensify your sex life. You can scream and shout all sorts of filthy, dirty and nasty profanities while you and your man are getting it on. “Fuck me harder,” “I want to taste your cum,” “I love your cock!” 

You can also use a bunch of other freaky and dirty talking phrases that make for more sensual, sexy love making. Whispering in his ear, “Don’t stop, I love it” or “You feel incredible” is going to work much differently, but it’s still going to have a great outcome.  

 
 

Keep Him Thinking About You – Building sexual tension with your man is one obvious benefit to using the dirty talking phrases in this guide. An additional benefit is that it will keep him thinking of you. 

There’s nothing worse than when your man travels for work, is posted abroad, or he has an overly friendly and flirty female co-worker. Using the right kind of dirty talk with him will keep him constantly thinking about you, fantasizing about when he’s next going to see you and eagerly awaiting the next time you call or message him.  

When you combine building sexual tension, keeping your man thinking about you and having intense sex, you can probably see just how beneficial talking dirty can be for your relationship. 
 

 

 
 

How To Talk Dirty To Your Man: Step By Step Instructions 

 

Now that we have discussed why you need to talk dirty to your man, it’s time to learn how to do it. 

1. Start In The Shallow End Of The Pool – If you suddenly start talking dirty to your man and are being extremely explicit, then there is a chance that he is going to get a little freaked out, especially if it’s the last thing that he’d normally expect from you. 

It’s a much better idea to slowly introduce dirty talk that is not too extreme or ‘out there’ or explicit. Start slowly and build up to the more intense stuff. 

 

2. Begin In The Bedroom – You’ll also find that it’s easiest and most natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone. This way there is far less pressure. 

Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your man in private, then start experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your man’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in his ear while you’re both in a crowded bar! 

 

3. Tailor It To His Tastes – Almost every guy on the planet adores it when you talk dirty to him, but…it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty talk phrases he likes most. Some guys prefer it when you are subtle and even polite with your dirty talk while others prefer it when you are super explicit. 

So your man might love it when you say something simple and subtle like, “I can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at church. Or he may prefer it when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.” 

The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on your man by experimenting and trying it out in different ways, whether that’s sending him dirty text messages  or just asking him some dirty, naughty questions. 

 

4. Tailor It To Your Tastes – Of course you want to talk dirty in a way that turns your man on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having fun too! So many women forget this. 

If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your man or if you don’t like the idea of sending him dirty text messages, don’t feel that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you. 

However, my advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether or not it’s for you. It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start talking dirty to your man or when you try something new. As you do it more and more and see your husband’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow. 

5. Don’t Force It! – The advice you read here is just that; it’s advice. It’s not a rigid law that works flawlessly every time or in every situation. Anyone that claims to have a secret, “magic formula” for talking dirty that works every time is lying. 

So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the reaction you’re looking for, DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO KEEP DOING IT! Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll slowly build up an encyclopedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will keep your man obsessed. 

Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more explicit, “out there” kind while others find that very subtle dirty talk works best. Some excel at phone sex while others get better results from dirty text messages. They key is focusing on what works best for you. 

 

6. The Great Dirty Talking Lie – There is a misconception that many women have when they are learning to talk dirty, it’s a trap I hope that you won’t fall into. Some women think that the best way to talk dirty is to be very explicit and aggressive. 

As you read through this guide and try out some of the dirty talk phrases below, you’ll quickly realize that being subtle when you talk dirty to your man can often be more intense and powerful than being aggressive or explicit. 

For example, while you are at a party with your man, leaning into him and softly whispering, “If theses people weren’t around, I would do terrible things to you,” and then giving him a cheeky grin before continuing your conversation like normal is crazy powerful. It’s going to blow your man away. He’ll be constantly wondering what you meant, what you are going to do to him after the party and, of course, he’s going to be very turned on too. 

But you didn’t even say anything that outrageous. Keep this in mind as you experiment and learn to talk dirty and you will have one very happy man who is completely addicted to you and only you. 

 

Dirty Talk Phrases To Get You Started. 

I have organized them into three groups…the first group is for building sexual tension, the second is for intensifying sex, and the third group will keep you man thinking about you and only you. 

 

Dirty Talk Phrases For Building Sexual Tension 

• If we weren’t at this party and these people weren’t around, I would jump you right now! 

• What would you say if I asked you to go down on me right now? 

• It might sound greedy, but I need your cock so bad right now.  

• I’m going to drain your balls tonight! 

• I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off and fuck you. 

• I need to feel you inside me. 

• Nobody has ever fucked me like you do. 

• Even when you’re in a bad mood, I want to fuck you. 

• I’m going to mark you as mine tonight. 

• When we get home, I’m going to make you orgasm so hard. 

• Knowing that you can completely overpower me makes me so crazy horny.  

• What would you prefer I wear tonight, a thong or panties or nothing at all? 

• Would you discipline me if I was acting bratty? 

• I’m going to break you tonight.  

• If these people weren’t here, I would be on my knees with your cock in my mouth. 

• I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me. 

• I’ve got a sexy surprise for you later… x (great when sent as a text message/IM/email)  

• I wish we could just stay in bed and have sex all day long – Perfect when he is leaving your place to keep the sexual tension high. 

• I love it when you wear tight clothes. 

• Guess what color my panties are? 

• We need to meet after work; this horniness is killing me. 

• I just want to wrap my pussy around your cock. 

• You look so fucking hot in the morning. 

• I wore these panties just for you. 

• I feel so horny and helpless when you dominate me. 

• Tonight is going to be a lot of fun 😉 (Perfect as a message) 

• If you play your cards right, you’ve got some pleasure/fun coming your way. 

• Stop looking at me like that, it’s making me wet. 

• Tonight we’re going to do what I want to do. But don’t worry, it’s going to be a lot of fun! 

• I’m going to make you scream and shout tonight! 

• It’s a pity we’re not in bed right now because all I can think of is feeling your body on mine. 

Dirty Talk Phrases For Intense Sex 

• I just want to be your little fuck doll… 

• I want to feel your cock in my mouth. 

• I love it when you fuck me like a slut. 

• Fuck me like you mean it! 

• I don’t want to feel my face or hands after you’re done with me. 

• I want to taste your cum. 

• Making you cum hard is my number one priority right now. 

• Taste me. 

• I don’t want to be able to walk tomorrow so fuck me harder. 

• Degrade me. 

• Use me. 

• Don’t stop. 

• Fuck me like your own me. 

• You’re going to make me cum. 

• I love your dick. 

• Fuck my cunt. 

• Fill me up. 

• I want your cum. 

• I want to fall asleep with you inside me. 

• Grab my breasts and squeeze my nipples. 

• I’ve been really bad and need to be punished. 

• You’re not leaving here until I have your cum in my mouth. 

• Deeper! (then pull him deeper with your arms and legs) 

• I want to hear you scream my name when you cum. 

• You like how I fuck you? 

• Pull my hair and slap me. 

• Please fuck me harder daddy. 

• Make me your bitch. 

• Cum for me. 

Dirty Talk Phrases To Keep Him Thinking About You 

NOTE: Many of these phrases work best when sent as messages. 

• I feel so small when you wrap your arms around me…I miss this so much. 

• Sometimes my legs get weak when you kiss me. 

• Just thinking about you makes me so dam wet! 

• I miss your cock. 

• If we could only have sex in one position for the rest of our lives, what would it be? 

• I masturbated about you last night.  

• Still feeling sore after last night 🙂 

• I think you’re the only guy who can make me angry and horny at the same time. 

• The hottest thing about last night was feeling you shoot your load inside me. 

• I can still taste you. 

• I want to be your lady on the streets and your freak between the sheets. 

• I never thought I would meet someone that gets me so god dam aroused. 

• I’m supposed to working, but all I can think about is you dominating me.